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Not on My Watch

The mold of his remains stands in stark contrast to others. Most were in various stages of repose. Some wore the face of shock and desperation. Others looked like they had simply laid down and died. Over 2,000 didn’t make it out of the city before it was too late. But he, alone, stands out from the crowd.

It was 79 AD. Pompeii sat at the base of a grumbling volcano. For most of those who called Pompeii home, it was an upper-crust enclave for Rome’s rich and famous. A little over a decade earlier, it had taken a powerful hit from an earthquake—a seismic warning of its pending demise. This time, however, only expedience and level-headed leadership would save the fortunate. As it was, about 18,000 made it out alive. But the remaining 2,000 who were denied the benefit of a running start told a compelling story of the hopelessness that made up their final hours.

Let’s forget about them for now. Their story has been well told in the rows of books each library carries on the history and excavation of Pompeii. I want to focus on the gladiators. For the bulk of the ones stationed there, Pompeii was simply their current billet until their tour of duty was over. It wasn’t their town, it was just the one they were assigned to guard. The people weren’t their families, they were just the ones Rome had left in their care. But when the initial rumblings began in nearby Mt. Vesuvius, the orders were handed down and the gladiators were assigned their post.

Reality dictates the obvious. Human nature is human nature. A volcano erupting in the background and 20,000 citizens panicking in the foreground make it hard to keep one’s focus. The brass in charge of the troops might desire, but few would expect that conscripts far from home would hold their post and do their duty in such a hopeless setting. In fact, many of the gladiators discovered in Pompeii were found chained to their post.

Then there was this lone soldier: vigilant, focused, and dead. He was found almost two thousand years after the fact still holding his assigned position, weapon at the ready, unfazed, resolute, and unmoved by personal needs. I have no idea who he was, what he looked like, or where he hailed from. But he’s the only one out of all the thousands of people who died in this ancient, pagan city that I actually admire. He gets my vote because he didn’t run when everyone else did. He didn’t think about himself when everyone else would have. A good chunk of those 18,000 who got out in time owe him for their lives. And in his death, he teaches us all a lesson for today.

The fact is, there are some moral and spiritual threats rumbling in the distance that make Vesuvius look mild. At the foot of these threats sit some people we all love. God calls us to duty, to vigilance, and to courage. He calls us to hold our post and think about others instead of ourselves. He asks us to surrender our selfish interests, and maybe even forego some of our needs. And no matter what, He asks us not to turn tail and run.

I’m not going to go down the laundry list that makes up the biggest threats to your family. You should know them by now. If you can’t articulate them, then you might want to start running now; at least you can save yourself. But if you care about the people left in your charge, I thought you might benefit from the standing orders of those assigned by God to guard the perimeter.

In the military, they’re known as "The General Orders of the Sentry."* If you’ll indulge me, I’d like to list them as is, then adapt them to our scenario:

To take charge of this post and all government property in view. (While we’re on duty as moms and dads, we’re to assume a position of leadership, keeping a good eye on everything and everyone in our care.)

To walk my post in a military manner, keeping always on the alert and observing everything that takes place within sight or hearing. (We’re not to be mistaken for the "run-of-the-mill." We’re in the Lord’s service. We must pay attention!)

To report all violations of orders I am instructed to enforce. (We don’t do anyone any favors by ignoring the rules. Circumvented standards are useless and meaningless.)

To repeat all calls from posts more distant from the guardhouse than my own. (Everyone fares better when we keep the lines of communication open.)

To quit my post only when properly relieved. (For most, it’s just before they embalm you.)

To receive, obey, and pass on to the sentry who relieves me all orders from the commanding officer, officer of the day, and officers and non-commissioned officers of the guard only. (The next generation will fare much better if we make sure they know what it takes to do their job well.)

To talk to no one except in the line of duty. (Beware of those who would distract you from doing your best.)

To give the alarm in case of fire or disorder. (Don’t worry about sounding foolish. Warn them of the threats. Even if they choose to ignore you, at least they have no one to blame but themselves.)

To call the commander of the relief in any case not covered by instructions. (Pray, pray, pray!)

To salute all officers, and all colors and standard not cased. (Remember, it’s God and His Word that demand our respect and honor.)

To be especially watchful at night and, during the time of challenging, to challenge all personnel on or near my post and to allow no one to pass without proper authority. (It might be lonely, and it might be frightening, but God is with you. He’ll never leave you nor forsake you.)

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable; always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain, in the Lord. 1 Corinthians 15:58

* From the Plebe’s Handbook, Reef Points, United States Naval Academy.


On the Home Front with Darcy Kimmel

One of the most exciting times for a parent in their child’s spiritual journey is when that child chooses to be baptized. It is one of those exhaling moments when you feel the relief and joy that comes from knowing that your child has made a personal salvation decision and is willing to testify to its validity and importance in the company of friends and family.

Shiloh was baptized recently, and it was so encouraging to hear her articulate her testimony and make a public commitment to live a life that reflects her decision. God is so faithful, and we are so grateful.

Shiloh was one of many baptized that evening, and I couldn’t help noticing a similarity in the testimonies as they were shared. Again and again, a parent, a Sunday school teacher, an Awana leader, a camp counselor, or a willing friend was credited with loving the regenerated sinner into the kingdom of God. It was a great reminder to me that God uses us, the ordinary, to participate with Him in the extraordinary. What a privilege!

If you fall into one of those broad categories of influence, be encouraged that God can use your position of service to shepherd a child to the Savior.

Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them: for of such is the kingdom of God. Mark 10:14

Here’s to tender testimonies and divine dipping.

Love, Darcy